6/18/19

Hello sweet friend,

This has been weighing on my heart for the last couple days, before I get to that, let me ask you a few questions.

Have you ever tried to be perfect so people would like you more?

Have you ever tried to perfectly word a text message to seem more interesting?

Have you maybe even told a few white lies to make yourself look better?

Have you searched for validation or attention from others?

Me too.

But why do we do this? We do we need other people’s approval of us to prove to us that we are loved and enough?

Let me tell you, I used to be such a people pleaser, and sometimes I still am. I would be so afriad to say what i really thought or how i really felt in fear of offending someone or making them dislike me. So i kept quiet.

Keeping quiet made me feel unimportant, and like I was dishonoring myself. But i kept pushing myself to stay quiet, because at least people would like me if i agreed with them and nodded my head.

I started to forget what I stood for. I started to slowly lose myself. Part of me was in turmoil, and the other part was thriving off of approval of others and pleasing them.

This is how it usually goes. When we search for others approval we will go lengths to get it, just so we can feel good about ourselves.

How far are you willing to go for approval?

Are you wiling to lose who you are? Are you willing to stay quiet? Are you willing to sit back and get walked all over?

What happens when you do all of this and there are people out there that still dislike you? Now, you have just given up everything, for nothing.

The thing is, when we thrive and search for approval from others, our self-esteem is rooted in whether or not we receive that approval.

People’s opinions change, one minute they could love you and the next they don’t. That seems like a very unstable thing to root your self-esteem in. Opinions are not facts, only opinons. read that again. Opinoins are not facts, only opinions.

The only people’s approval you need is God’s and your own. Guess what? You already have Gods, he created you exactly how you are. He knows how many hairs are on your head! You are one of his masterpieces.

What if you lived your life as though you are already loved?

No approval from others needed. No need to bite your tongue and nod. No need to write the perfect text, or take the perfect selfie.

How would the way you live and show up in your life change if you woke up everyday and lived your life already loved, lacking nothing?

You would be free to be yourself.

The person with flaws and insecurities. The person with a silly sense of humor. The person who loves to quote movies, or vines. The person who likes to dance and sing around the house. The person who has a big heart and cares for everyone else.

The person who can look in the mirror and see the reflection of someone so loved, if only you would choose and believe so.

You have the power to love who you are, and know that no matter what has been said, or done to you. No matter how you have felt in your life. No matter who is or isn’t a part of your life.

You are already loved.

No approval needed except your own.

From someone who struggles to accept herself,

From someone who is working on living like I am already loved,

From someone like you,

Bela.